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like all emotions i think FOMO is something that is ultimately neutral. if you get FOMO over friends doing something you otherwise have no interest in, and then that leads to you getting a new hobby that really becomes your thing, that's a positive kind of FOMO, for example

but it behoves you to recognise there's an endless series of things that could give you FOMO if you let them, and only some of them that really ought to matter to you, if any

i used to have quite a bit of something adjacent to FOMO about travel. despite having the means and the time and so on to travel a lot, i do it fairly rarely, and while i think for my own good i should do it more often, it's actually the will to explore that creates the meaning

if you lack that kind of wanderlust in you, a desire for and receptiveness to new things, then physically being on the other side of the world may in fact do nothing for you. on the other hand, with the wanderer's soul in you, walking the same familiar back streets can be amazing

something to be said for how not straying too far outside of what you're familiar with makes it easier to comprehend what you encounter on your way, too (but you must also stray far outside, i'm just saying that all paths have their own virtues)

hmm there's also something about interestingness you can sell to yourself versus interestingness you can sell to others

a lot of stuff i can miss out on and not care if i only care about my own opinion, but if i have something to prove to others, it's a bit harder i guess